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身在职场必须要有城府吗

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一个人有无城府的前提该是有无“岁数、资历、经验”。若毛孩子也有城府,那可笑掉大牙了;若一天班都没上过,谈什么职场生存法则,那有些生硬;若没吃过亏上过当,给人讲授人生哲学,太幼稚。有过爱恨情仇的经历,胸中才有城府;胸有城府,才会洞彻事理、练达老成、豁然贯通。

人在职场,不管男女,一点儿城府都没有,不行,否则老被别人当做炮灰。可是,城府太深,给人的感觉也不好,相信没有哪个上司或同事会喜欢一个城府极深的人。那么,我们身在职场到底应不应该有城府呢?

公司里有一个年轻女职员,能力很强,但是很多人都说这个人不好,太有心机,见人说人话,见鬼说鬼话。可公司人力资源部的主管还是把她提拔做了公关经理。

但 是在提拔前,他和这个女职员有一番交谈,经理说:“你的能力很强这是有目共睹的,这也是你能得到提升的关键。但是在处事的问题上,你需要注意说话这个问 题。其实见什么人说什么话是对的,本身没有什么大问题,但你的问题在于让别人都意识到了你的不真诚。这会使你成为一个让人不喜欢不信任的人,有一点心机是 好事,但若是反被心机拖了后腿那就有点得不偿失了。”

女职员这才恍然大悟,以前的自己过于世故,待人不够真诚,以至于自己明明想和同事有一个融洽的关系也被看成是虚伪。后来她待人接物改变了做法,更加真诚,也更成熟。

现在这个女职员已经成为一名优秀的公关经理,她能贴切得体地处理各种关系,而且不会让人觉得世故圆滑。现在,她正渐渐从低段位的心机修炼成高段位的城府。

城府不是简单地把自己放在一个面具下面,然后在面具下做着黑暗的事,那只是低级的手段而已,而只有当你能够做到像例子中的女职员一样可以妥当地处理好各种关系时,才是城府的最高境界,也才是真正意义上的城府。

有城府的人不一定就是笑面虎,也不一定就是背后对你使手段的人,这样认为的人只是把城府这个词的意思表面化,以为只是一味地使用一些手段来维护自己的利益。

只有真正懂得城府的人,他们才能做到待人真诚却不简单,才能让人喜欢你信任你,也才能最大程度地平衡各方面的关系。如果你的城府总是会被别人认为虚伪、心机重的话,你还不如变得简单,至少别人不会讨厌你。

城府是职场必备的一种素质,但是怎样才能既有城府,还能让人都喜欢你、信任你呢?

1. 接受复杂

每一个人都会长大,都要面对世界的复杂,但是复杂的世界不一定就是丑陋的。既然不能一直生活在简单的世界里,那么我们应该接受复杂。一旦接受了,我们就拥有了宽容与智慧,城府可以让我们游刃有余地行走其中。

2. 在合适的时候做合适的事

有城府的人应该明白自己的位置以及这个位置上应有的得体言行。合适的话语和行为能让你懂得什么时候能上前,什么时候需要避让,什么时候能说话,什么时候应该沉默。

3. 从别人的角度看自己

城府是人情世故,规矩礼数,说穿了就是站在他人的位置上去感知自己的言行。如果只顾自己往上爬而踩着别人的头,那样就算你当了公司的董事长又能怎么样,那时候已经没有人会为你办事了。

4. 回归自然和纯真

城府不是要你挑战道德,做一些必然会讨人厌的事情,而是学会用一种手段来让各种关系变得自然和真诚。

世界从来不像我们曾设想的那么简单,一旦明白了世界是复杂的,人性是复杂的,我们就应该利用城府来武装自己,高端的城府可以让我们在这复杂的社会中游刃有余地行走其中。

也许不是每个人都能达到城府的最高境界,但是在职场中你却不能傻乎乎的完全不懂事。学会一些城府的技巧,然后运用到我们的工作中,你会发现原来很多事情就变得简单多了。

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